Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Loving Your Kids the Right Way



----- This is a powerful message in our modern society. We seemed to have lost our bearing & sense of direction.


One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."

The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager.I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired."

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Odesk Fulfilled a Writer's Dream


When I graduated from college I wanted to be a writer but shortly after I tried writing I realized that writing is a fulfillment not a job. Finding contracts was a gargantuan feat that most writers (I know I was)get disappointed and end up getting higher paying jobs, sadly those were jobs that did not require writing :(

I became a telephone operator, a telemarketer, a sales manager, a government employee and finally a call center dudette :) Yup, so many jobs in so little time cause I was probably not happy with any of them. I did the job because I needed the money and not because it was what I wanted to do, in my heart I still wanted to write.

Writing is my lifeblood. It gives me a sense of fulfillment no other job can. It allows me to transport people to places unknown to them, enables me to transfer feelings, create a new world where I am master, conjure images without using pictures... magical, that's what words are to me.

Now, after so many years of trying to stay afloat while keeping my dream in sight I have finally found my mecca in ODesk. ODesk has given me access to a market that is a writer's paradise. A place where a writer like me can unleash my unbridled writing desires to my heart's content, be appreciated and get paid handsomely too. In ODesk the demand for writers is totally unquenched that you will have a chance to pick your topics and writing style.

ODesk is a freelancer's wonderland. A place where you can create a career for yourself, pace your advancement, develop all your skills without fear of peer pressure and best of all maximize your earning power without killing your human body.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Feng Shui for the Year 2011 the Year of the Metal Rabbit…

I got an email from a friend with an attachment about 2011 predictions and I got a little curious about how our year is going to turn out so I checked out some of the Chinese horoscope websites and got some confusing and contradicting information :)

Some of the websites said it will be a difficult year for me, I’m a pig (that should not be take literally of course, its purely coincidental that I’m fat and my Chinese calendar year turned out to be the Pig. Quite unfortunate :( ) others say I will excel this year. My husband is a rabbit and some say he will have a glorious year with travels and career growth while others say it is a year for caution regarding travels and business will be at a stand still. So…. I am not sure what to make of it.

In any case I think I would believe the one that tells of good fortune as it will give me a positive outlook and bring out a better me :) whereas if you focus on the negative you will become stagnant and probably be depressed for a year until the Rabbit hops out and the Dragon makes it grand entrance in 2012!

The moral of the story is… Your life is what you make of it, you get what you give and if you want a better life then get up and get it because good fortune, unlike rain, does not fall from the sky.


I’m posting here our good horoscopes so that positivity will rub all over us and we will be blessed for 2011!!!

My Husband’s (Year of the Wooden Rabbit)

Well, his time has come! The charming Rabbit in 2011 year of the White Metal Rabbit will definitely feel the planetary support to eveything, even to his most ambitious undertakings. In this period, representative of this zodiacal circle, the favorite of Fortune can relax – his business is unable to be shaken even by the most brutal all-out crisis. He can rest, take a trip or just take good care of himself postponing the solution of insignificant problems for the indefinite future. Rabbit can change image, learn Japanese language or go to university – this year he has to do something that brings joy to his heart, and which can expand the horizons of the future. In love, Rabbit will as always be aloft, the only mistake he can make is to experience a large number of romances that will not transfer into quality sensuous relationships. All that is needed by Rabbit in 2011 year of the White Metal Rabbit is a wise attitude to love, because not feeling satisfaction, being tired of intense relationships, Rabbits have every chance in the end to be disappointed in this feeling and remain a bachelor for a long time. Only seeing meaning in relationships, only dialogue, not monologue, can give a Rabbit an unforgettable experience of interaction with a partner. Fate makes generous bets, because it exactly knows that the winner of problems this year will be the Rabbit.

Mine (Year of the Pig)

The Pig loves to have fun and socialize with family and friends and on this front, the Year of the Rabbit will not disappoint him! He may not have been the life of the party recently, but in 2011 his social network will greatly increase with April, May, July and October being the most enjoyable months. The Pig parties hard and works hard and in the Year of the Rabbit he will be bringing in the rewards for all his hard work. For any Pigs who wish to change jobs or who want to climb up the promotional ladder, there will be quite a few opportunities this year to do either. But they must act quickly, ensuring they have made all the right inquiries and connections. March, April and September will see work developments happen, but they must be ready to pounce at any time during the year. The Pig will be feeling good in 2011 and would like all manner of wonderful things to happen – all at once! He must learn to pace himself and go along with the more leisurely speed of the Rabbit year. Otherwise, he may burn himself out. Overall, 2011 will be a progressive and enjoyable time for all Pigs.